This Year's Mother's Day Sucked

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I didn't take many photos in NYC because I left my Nikon at home, thinking that it was going to be a quick trip, in and out, filled with television stuff and meeting folks afterwards. On Mother's Day. 

I didn't realize that as I pulled up to the hotel on Sunday night, literally, as I was struggling with my bags on the sidewalk I had a CBS "Early Show" producer on my phone, in my ear, telling me that even though everything had been right as rain ten minutes ago, suddenly the segment was cancelled, no reason why. What a great Mother's Day. 

More to share, but I've a show to prepare for and two boys who need their hair combed. I'll finish this story later today. 

**And now for the long version. 

A CBS producer called me a week or so ago about featuring some Momversation ladies on the "Early Show." I directed her to the brains behind Momversation and soon after Heather Armstrong, Rebecca Woolf, and I were booked to be on the show. Every one of us has dealt with television, we're not stupid about production, I work in radio for a living and do national television frequently, in addition to PJTV. None of us in our experiences with broadcasting have ever encountered what we encountered on Mother's Day. 

Producers were switched out in the middle of the preproduction process, sometimes it happens if there are many segment producers running around, but I shrugged it off. We were told that the focus may be changing and then were reassured that no, our purpose for going -- promoting Momversation -- was still intact and we would still speak on the topic from that perspective. 

Flash forward to Sunday night when the three of us were fighting hunger pains because we missed a nice Mother's Day meal with our families. I get it, it happens, particularly in a news-driven show in a daypart.  They attributed it to the Kagan nomination but I can't help but wonder if media, White House press corps, et al. knew that the White House was going to hold a Monday morning presser before the three of us stepped on a plane and flew cross-country. I'd been hearing rumors about it from my little corner of the blogosphere.

I called the producers to whom we had spoken after the decision was rendered, hoping to get a firsthand reason but I never heard back. The louder our stomachs growled the angrier I got and I asked Amanda in travel to arrange to cover our dinner, which CBS did. (Thanks, Amanda, for being so awesomely accessible!) It was the only meal we had that day. I went to bed and stared at a photo of my boys, my phone's wallpaper, until the phone timed its light out. 

I visited some friends at Fox the next day and their producers (some of whom are veterans from other networks), with whom I've never had anything but a pleasant experience, were surprised that the decision to cut the segment wasn't made before we flew out. I'm not going to put myself in the shoes of the people who have to call the shots at CBS or blame the messenger, though sometimes doing so sends a message, but, dude. 

I know some people online are Twittering about all the atrocities in the world and "can we get perspective?" OK, you try leaving for a whirlwind business trip on a day when you know that all your family is getting together, you deal with getting a fill-in for your show and making sure all the loose ends are knotted, that all your kids homeschool lessons are in place so they don't miss anything the day that you're gone, you go speak in Kansas City and drive across the state the next day with your family so you can hop a plane for an in total six hour trip cross-country. We were looking forward to it and were willing to sacrifice or reschedule the one day that's officially ours to make it happen. It was going to be a segment by mothers, for mothers. 

Yes, we're moms. I know it's often like, shocking for some to realize that moms are women who work be it outside or inside the home, and their entire existence as a parent isn't wholly defined by the product of procreation, but rather enriched, blessed by it -- which makes it all the more important that they are treated as courteously as possible, especially on Mother's Day.

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