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One word ...

"The comment moderation is just one of several things I'm doing in an effort to take back blogging for myself so that I can continue on here in a way I can live with.


Here's the final bit of what I'd like to say about all of this, to be perfectly clear: this is a personal weblog, with a strong emphasis on PERSONAL ... I and I alone run this mother, and what I say goes within the tiny confines of this tiny amount of space I own on our internets. This isn't a public forum, and I don't owe anyone a voice."

... Amen.

It's one of the reasons I disabled comments on my website, when things elsewhere got heated. Case in point, some actual comments that have ended up in my inbox:

I'm just a Midwestern mom, too, Dana, and I used to read your Mamalogues and chuckle.  And then, well, what exactly happened to you?  Why did you sell out like this? 

- M Carney


I used to love to read you and then I realized your politics. Now I cannot bring myself to stand you.

- Sarah


It's unfair that you don't allow comments. How can you call this a blog when it's just you? You can't.  

- Erica

You were better when you kept your politics to yourself.

- Angie H

Finding out that mamalogues was conservative to me was probably what catholics feel like when they find out their son or daughter is gay.

- Vicky  

I discussed this here. There exist some who would prefer that I assist them in their charade of diversity by only writing about things with which they agree. When I decided to close comments last year I did so because people would read something I'd written for work somewhere else or heard me say something not non-political on air and they'd crap all over my comments with how stupid I was, how stupid my kids were, how stupid my husband was, how dare I attempt to GASP do motherhood and hold an opinion on the issues of the day, what did I think this was, THE YEAR 2010?

I don't care how selfish this sounds: I write here for me, first and foremost. When you stop writing for yourself your writing begins to suck. It's evident. I've seen it happen. Your voice stops being your own and all you're doing is taking dictation from either the voices in your head of what you THINK your audience wants to hear or from your audience directly.

I love people and I love writing and I love writing for people but unless Vicky, Angie, Sarah, M, and the others who've written me to chastise me for being "out of the closet" with who I am want to commission me to write about things which interest them, my motivation and what and how I write is not going to change.

I still connect with people on Twitter, Facebook, and email but in order for me to feel creative again I needed this space back, thus the comments. Someday that may change. I appreciate the understanding and support in the meantime.

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