Video: February 2009 Archives

Don't you love my homemade signs? Thankfully my mother does not have the internet so she can't admonish me later.

Have you ever had one of those women in your life that was a <airquotes>friend</airquotes> but didn't act like it? One of those women who acted more like an enemy, a woman who crossed your boundaries, tore you down, made you uncomfortable? I think we've all had one and that's what we're discussing in this latest Momversation. I'm lucky in that I have a group of girlfriends that I adore (I also have several girlfriends that I met online who later became some of my real life confidantes). I can tell anything to these women, I know I have their support and they mine, and I have the best time in their company. It's a rare thing to find another woman who is on your wavelength. You tend to know pretty quick if they're someone with whom you can hang or not. The bad friendships I've had have made me treasure my genuine friendships that much more.

So when you have one of those "toxic friends," what do you do? How do you manage it - do you manage it? Do you put up with it or break it off and if you do the latter, how?


Remember the Day in the Life Flickr series I created? I'm getting ready to do another one and I'd like for you to join me. The next Day in the Life will be this Friday. The rules are as follows:

- Join the Day in the Life Flickr group.
- Photos MUST be taken all on the SAME DAY, this Friday. A shot of your morning routine, another shot of a lazy lunch; the purpose is to provide a glimpse into YOUR life from YOUR perspective. Upload as you go.
- G-rated, peeps.

I'm looking forward to seeing what you come up with!

Childfree by choice

My latest episode for Momversation is up and the discussion is about people who choose not to have children and the judgment parents get from some within that community.

One of the points I made, which was edited out due to time constraints, focused on how some who choose to be childfree would like maternity leave and the same benefits as families. My point is that they chose not to have children and with that went the choice to partake in family benefits. I was a little offended by the analogy that writing a book (one of their examples) or going on vacation, et al., was equal to or as selfless as bringing a life into the world and nurturing it. If people who are childfree want to have a positive impact on the world, they can start by not being cranky towards parents or large families. Respect for choices goes both ways! Don't you think?

Also, I've made a decision with regards to India. I'll discuss it tomorrow.

Breastfeeding and formula feeding

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(I'll be on Great Day St. Louis again today at 10 a.m. on KMOV Channel 4 to discuss this post, much to the delight of my mother. I (or Carol) will be reading a few of the comments you left on that one on air. I don't know whose comments they chose in advance.)

My latest episode is up at Momversation and it's about [drumroll ...] breastfeeding and bottle feeding! More particularly the weirdo perverts who have problems with public breastfeeding and the weirdo busybodies who think it's their place to criticize you if you use formula to feed your child. If you've read this website for over a year, you'll remember the hoopla caused when I wrote a column in defense of public breastfeeding for a printed paper and the ****storm caused from it (including my subsequent removal, the hundred of subscribers who wrote to tell me that public breastfeeding was "slutty," "unladylike," "inappropriate," et al.) because how dare I use the term "boobs" instead of something like "chestal region." Ahem.

So obviously I gots me some intense fillings about it. (As does Rebecca, evidenced below.) If you have a problem with public breastfeeding you are a pervert. Stop staring at women's chests. If you have a problem with formula feeding, you need to get a life and realize that your offensively nosy actions preclude you from a mother-of-the-year award. Thanks!

Have you ever had a problem with someone trying to get all in your business with regards to breast or bottle feeding? Did you struggle with anxiety because you were afraid of others' reactions if you nursed in public or made your child a bottle? How did you handle it?

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