First, my response at Momversation:
A few things.This is when I wish we could see the full videos so you get the full sentiment.
First, we cannot have a discussion about judgment wherein people apply judgment as the basis of their response. "Nutjob?" Seriously?
More importantly, when I taped my question, it was around five minutes long, the length of an entire Momversation episode. I began with explaining how two of my girlfriends, who are adoptive mothers due to fertility issues, were unhappy that someone to whom they looked up would sort of view pregnancy as a negative, an experience they would give limbs to experience. That was edited out but my remark about pregnancy remained.
Pregnancy is part of motherhood as well, and for many women, the first step.
I also remarked that is it really in the best interest of a child to seemingly discourage adoption?
I can argue this issue either way and quite honestly, I don't give a crap what Jillian Michaels thinks. I could care less. I don't read women's fitness magazines, I wouldn't know or care who this woman was if I fell over her in my living room, but it is an interesting topic and I found it interesting based upon my girlfriends' reactions. I was posing a question and in an attempt to prove how bad judgment is, some selflessly chose to demonstrate it.
But, who could blame them? Seriously? I was careful with my response in this and the way I came across was exactly what I wanted to avoid.
However. My point about when choosing to become a parent, or even after becoming a parent, it should be about your child, not what you look like, I still hold to that. Now that, if you choose to do so, can be judged and disassembled.
Thanks for the responses. :)
I don't think it's a pro-choice issue, I think it's an issue of becoming a parent and your first thought is about self, not about your kid. If that's judgmental, then so be it, but I hate that we live in an era where if things sound the least bit off we are prohibited, by the chain of political correctness, by venturing further and saying such.
I get that some women have neuroses about body image - but to the point where it dictates how you create your family? Doesn't it seem enabling to not say "what's the big deal?" The whole point is that I can argue this both ways and I was posing a question but only one side was used.
I'll return to this space shortly but a radio show awaits.